If you’ve ever bent over backwards to keep everyone happy… while secretly feeling resentful, frustrated, or invisible, No More Mr. Nice Guy might hit you like a wake-up slap (in the best way possible).
In this bestselling self-help classic, therapist Dr. Robert Glover unpacks what he calls “Nice Guy Syndrome”—a pattern where men try to gain approval and avoid conflict by being overly accommodating, self-sacrificing, and conflict-averse. But here’s the twist: underneath all that niceness is often a storm of repressed anger, neediness, and shame.
So Who Is the Nice Guy?
According to Glover, the Nice Guy:
• Tries to be what he thinks others want him to be
• Hides his flaws and mistakes
• Avoids conflict like the plague
• Suppresses his needs and desires
• Believes if he’s “good,” he’ll get love, sex, and a smooth life
Spoiler alert: it doesn’t work—and often leads to broken relationships, passive-aggression, and emotional burnout.
The Core Message
Glover’s core message is bold and freeing:
“Stop trying to be nice. Start being real.”
He encourages men to:
• Set boundaries
• Embrace their masculinity
• Own their desires
• Face conflict honestly
• Build self-worth from the inside out
Why It Resonates
This book isn’t about becoming a jerk. It’s about reclaiming authenticity, strength, and emotional honesty. It’s about being a good man—not a “nice” one.
If you’re tired of playing small, hiding your truth, or waiting for others to give you permission to live fully—No More Mr. Nice Guy is your next essential read.
